Actually, now that you’ve brought up the OOG events… the second event was NOT welcoming. At all. I attempted to engage upon arrival and was very much met with a cold shoulder.
I didn’t take this personally. We had only met two people there before (Chelsea and Melissa, who were lovely and polite- don’t get me wrong- I think Max got there later). We felt uncomfortable and weren’t introduced to anyone. In fact, sitting at the bar (since no chairs were saved for us), we talked to the bartender about how we had just joined this community and there must be some interpersonal stuff going on, because people weren’t really interacting – at least with us or even with each other that we could see.
I don’t need to be catered to, but we definitely felt excluded and not a part of the event we had driven an hour to be present for.
Now, regarding old feelings… I get it. It’s hard having to face the past. It is IMPOSSIBLE however to move on from it without facing it. Maybe this is the perfect opportunity to resolve issues that you were too emotional to handle when first faced with them. I don’t know. I do know that there is no semblance of a resolution that I’ve yet read… maybe I haven’t gotten there yet.
If that is the case… me catching up on things shouldn’t be that big of a deal. This is an ADULTS ONLY game. We should be able to communicate how we feel without being met with derision. If people aren’t mature enough for that, that is what the MODERATORS are for. THEY are elected to help guide and protect these threads.
My problem comes in when old members tell me to take my nose and stick it elsewhere. You should, as adults, be able to reconcile events… if you had, me wondering about it wouldn’t matter as much. This is a big deal because you have refuse to deal with a root issue and are complacent letting dust settle.
I would rather FIX something once and for all than walk on eggshells.
